LYFE 365

You Matter
Christine Norman

Mark 12:31

The second great commandment is this: “Love others in the same way you love yourself." There are no commandments more important than these.

I had to come to the conclusion that I would no longer subject myself to the abuse of others. For far too long I wanted the approval of others and subjected myself to their moods, expectations, and whims. Then when I became a Christian, I confused taking up my cross and turning the other cheek with continually dealing with the toxic drama of others.

After taking more than I should have, one day I had enough. I decided today that there is nothing “unchristian” about walking away from mistreatment. I also realized that I didn't have to curse or fight with anyone to do so. I could take the high road and turn the other cheek, but I could also turn the lock and refuse to let the perpetrator come back into my sacred spaces.  I don’t have to keep coming back or allowing others to come to me with more of the same. I am still in the learning curve for those who have come to expect me to take whatever they dish out; but to go forward with me some of my old dogs will have to learn new tricks or find a new kennel!

No longer will I allow people who need me or take from me to do so without a reasonable amount of respect and kindness. It took me about 43 years to get here but all that matters is that I am here, and here to stay! I hope that it doesn't take you as long, or if it already has, it is never too late to start.  Start being kind to you and you will require others to do the same!

Walk in your truth!

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